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Are you at the Crossroads of Life?

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 Which path do you choose – that of personal gain or making the choice to help others?

 The more difficult higher road of helping others, you would be amazed at the impact you will make. Well, it doesn’t mean you have to give up what you want to do…, you can use what you have already accomplished for yourself to help others. Don’t simply aspire to make a living; aspire to make a difference… I have no interest in what you have—only in you.

In getting and gaining you become successful, but only in helping others do you become significant!!!!

 

In getting and gaining you become successful, but only in helping others do you become significant.

 
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Weird how things develop, one action in a particular direction…..

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 …can create a different set of events.  That’s how it all started, never my intention to spend a lot of time in this particular pub as rock music wasn’t high on my agenda, in the beginning I didn’t like it at all and I didn’t really like the people that went there either…

Not that I think I am better than them or anything like that, I just couldn’t relate to them…then one day I was convicted that I should make an effort to befriend a few.   Not that difficult, there was a small group that my friend knew and at the end of the evening they were most often the worst for wear, their consumption of alcohol would have taken it’s toll and I would help them get home in my car.  On those occasions I would only have one alcoholic drink myself.

We may disagree on this issue as a Christian, nowhere in the Bible does it say you can’t have a drink, just says don’t get drunk.  For your own protection really as it alters your mindset, you end up saying and doing things you other wise wouldn’t have done. 

 I can confess to being partial to a glass of red wine or two which is relaxing  so evidently the car these days gets left at home and I get a lift there and back and sometimes share a taxi home…

Over the past three years we have all met up a lot at the pub, we have all gone to Butlins a couple of times as well to the 70’s Weekends, we have had meals at my home…  These days I know most people there at the pub and I’m there every weekend.  I have a vast mixture of friends both young and old…

The small group of people that once I would not have had anytime for are now my friends and I have begun to understand why they are drinking so heavily, the ultimate weight of their lives issues.  Disappointments, heartbreaks generally everything that goes on in my life too and this is just their way of handling it. 

I have gently probed them about their understanding of God, most of them are not believers, or once they did have a faith but there have been major issues in their life which have eroded it away…

The music has sort of grown on me, the bands; I am now keen to attend when they play at our pub.    I see that in fact it is a great passion for many people to be singing and one Christmas I went to a Christmas event and heard a local band, befriended them on Facebook and for a while followed the person  the person led me to know other women who share the passion for the music…

We became almost “rent a crowd” , where the band plays locally we will be there.  I noticed the person took advantage of his role as the leader and was exploiting it with who ever was willing to be taken advantage of, needless to say a few broken hearts have developed and our group has  gone from “rent a crowd” to just us two! My friend and I who have decided not to entertain any of this

At the very last moment the other week I went to the Congress Theatre to see one of the UK Tribute bands for Led Zepplin – I have never thought about listening to this band, never bought a record in my life, but despite acoustics being really poor, probably as the venue was half empty I could see the singers had a passion for the music, I couldn’t hear the words but I enjoyed the instrumental side of it.    

I connected with them on Facebook, just the same as I do with anyone else….

Last Saturday at our pub we had a guest singer with a group that probably sing there once a month… I only discovered this when I went to look at the photo’s. This time I am not in any photos as I didn’t go near the front due to the of the heat of the evening being so humid outside the inside was about 35c…made the discovery that the singer was in fact with a very famous tribute band Letz Zepp, of course I have never heard of them and since have just carried out a little bit of research.   I am interested to know more about the spiritual side of it as having been told about the darkness that is involved with it while doing so I pray against the darkness  and believe for God’s protection

 

 

 
 

Today I had another session with my Coach…

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Today, I had my 2nd session with Ruth who is taking me through an accreditation to coach with Coachnet.org

It has taken me well over a year to mentally and emotionally be in the right place to begin to learn to be an accredited Coach. I have know Ruth quite a while so I feel at ease with her.  I received three months coaching with my senior Pastor at my church prior to this decision, during a session I was able to uncover the plan and purpose for my life.  I was able to realise this by using a powerful Ministry Gifts profiling I could see what my strengths and weaknesses were and what occupation I could use my gifts in….My main strength is the gift of Encouragement, partly stems from the fact that as a child I didn’t receive very much encouragement myself and therefore I know how important and the impact it can have on you to receive it….

The underpinning knowledge and system I will be learning is based on being a Life  Coach though I plan to use my new skills as a Business Coach.to assist young adults from 18 years onwards.

Prioritising your Income and Expenses

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Abiding by the rules for your self – 10% tithe to the church, money to put away for a rainy day, paying the bills on time, work rest and play, having a vacation and also one thing we must not forget, paying money into our pensions.  We need to be vigilant as one day when we are not working we will be depending on our pension to fund our lifestyle.

With a small pension, your lifestyle may only mean, providing somewhere to live, food and drink, you may have to forget about that vacation!

Living by the sea I am actually spoilt, just ten minutes walk and I can be on the beach so spending a lot of money on a vacation is something I don’t do very much.  Also, with the children at school, I have to wait until their school holidays.

I enjoy so much the company of like-minded people who may not be in my town or even the same country I travel overseas when ever I can to Business Networking events.  I find it so exciting in the company of Entrepreneurs especially when we are working in the same in Industry, interesting to get to know these people and find out what their passions aspirations and goals in life are.

I joined World Ventures in 2010, I thought it would be an ideal service to use when I was on my networking trips , at least I would have the confidence to know that the hotels would be safe to stay in..

World Ventures gives me my own site http://connector.dreamtripslife.com/dreamtripslife to shop for my travel.  Rovia do their utmost best to provide you with the best value for money using their Rate Shrinker-

(Rate Shrinker will begin scanning hundreds of databases for a lower fare on your exact same itinerary.) and as part of the service for IPHONE users there is an app called Rovia Assist which you can download and log into so you have your own personal  assistant service staffed by experts in everything from travel assistance medical care and concierge services – 24 hrs a day- 7 days a week- anywhere in the world – this will help simplify your life…

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Guidelines of how to accomplish your Purpose in Life.

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Successfully, share your dream with other people.

Connect with them in the following ways;-

Logically

What people don’t believe – they don’t buy into. Share your vision and communicate what is happening today! Communicate an understanding of the successes and also the challenges you are overcoming.   

Create a Strategy

 Share the strategy, i.e  how we can expect to move forward step-by-step  and create goals to move us forward.   Ideally, work as a team –  different tasks are delegated to individuals, the task seems more attainable and each person involved has an increased sense of personal ownership and involvement.

 Together – Everyone – Achieves – More

Share your Dream Emotionally

Can you communicate your passion!    When we work hard and are successful, we receive rewards, we get excited about them

We seek like-minded people, to partner up with us, we understand that 10% of people are Pioneers, 70% percent are Settlers and 20%  are Antagonists.

 My goal is to win over the Pioneers, to wait for the Settlers and to leave the Antagonists behind.  Which category do you fall into?  Comment on the POLL

 Share your Dream Visually

 When people understand what you are trying to do and achieve they will buy into it.

 Most people want to feel that they are part of something bigger than themselves, when a dream is truly great it benefits everyone.. You need to help them connect with the opportunities for achieving personal growth, finding fulfillment and increasing their self-esteem.

 Communicate the reasons you chose to do what you did and what price or sacrifices you were willing to make to make sure you will achieve your dream..

 Live the dream, practice integrity and then you achieve a degree of success, the results will speak for themselves and people that have the same mindset will take ownership of it and join you.

 

 

 

 

Assistance will be available in your Trials and Struggles!

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God will help you in your trials and struggles.  He knows the people that you need to help you and the resources you need to get the job done and when we ask him, he will provide them.  If we are open to see, we can see God’s hand at work in what ever we are going through today.

Struggles don’t go away, but if we can alter our mindset to the way we see them, not be too passive, but to confront these situations.

I have had a very painful hand for the past couple of months, I have had prayer for it and it has eased up but recently I have been working very hard and I come to realise that it must be repetitive strain with using my USB Mouse.  Today, the Mouse is not working and I have had to result to using the square mouse or what ever you might call it on my laptop which previously I gave up with as it was too slow.  Probably for the best as I don’t want to be crippled for life, so you could say that in this situation God was moving as he showed me a better way to work.

 

‘If you would go every day to a very large tree and take five swings at it with a very sharp axe, eventually, no matter how large the tree, it would have to come down!!!

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Basically, it is the same with Network-Marketing, in this case the FREE DREAM_TRIP you offer people the chance to have a free vacation, all they need to do is register and watch this movie   – http://connector.windreamtrips.com  Some people you ask won’t bother as they don’t believe you when you tell them there is no catch.  Some people start watching the movie and when they see what it speaks about they give up half-way through so they then don’t activate the email that states they have watched the movie, so they don’t get in to the draw.  Some people say point blank they don’t want the opportunity.   Some of the people that actually watch the movie, may see and understand the opportunity and know it is for them, these are the people that I will work with.  Well to find these people it is almost like looking for a needle in a Haystack.  It wasn’t until I got involved with this business that I began to see how many negative and unmotivated people there were around, my own friends and relatives included!

Well, it is a numbers game to find those few people you need to ask just about everyone you come in contact with.  So basically, you are back to this trust element – would people you have never spoken to before actually believe that out of the blue a total stranger would be offering them an opportunity to have a free vacation, no strings attracted!   Sounds wildly unlikely doesn’t it  – though in this case it is true as I am sure that if I persevere with my dream to achieve the living  and a better lifestyle I will find other people who want to have the same.

I was taught a number of years back that the plan in a Christian’s walk was to be blessed so that in turn I would be able to give and bless others.  Recently, someone sneered that it was a bad suggestion to be wealthy, but in fact the aim to be wealthy is to be in the position to give back to the community

. A wise man once said, ‘Effort only releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.’

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Today, here and now I do not have a lot of money, I have a small income coming in every week but that is not enough to pay all my bills and move towards my dreams.  However, I keep positive thoughts and continue to strive forward to meet the challenges and believe that the resources will be available to me when I need them.

Life is that journey and only when we are in the right place, opportunities, resources and the people we need to make it happen will be available to us.   With my World Ventures business – it is people and not money that are the resources that I need to build the team and network of people that will give me the residual income.  Due to the Binary plan – and two team legs, I just need 30 people more and I will be a Senior Representative.   Basically, I need six people with the same mindset as me that can then bring six more people into this business team and then we have our 30 people, I may even win BMW.

Vision doesn’t follow resources, it happens the other way around. First we have a dream, then we have to move forward. Then-and only then-do people and resources follow. Then the plan God has given to us begins to fall into place. A wise man once said, ‘Effort only releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.’ People who succeed ‘see’ what others don’t. It’s what keeps them moving forward. ‘It was by faith that Moses left the land of Egypt, not fearing the king’s anger. He kept right on going because he kept his eyes on the one who is invisible.’

 

The greatest gap between successful people and unsuccessful people is the thinking gap.

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This is especially so when it comes to failure. Successful people see failure as a regular part of success, and they get over it.

When you try and do something and you fail, you know you need to try something new next time.

Attitude changes not to feel a failure but to feel that indeed life is full of challenges waiting to be overcome.

Successful people keep learning and moving forward.  Keeping that positive attitude in your mind will enable you to move forward in what you want to do!