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Having the heart and destiny for “Servant Leadership” can have its rewards as well as its disadvantages

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Having the heart and destiny for “Servant Leadership” can have its rewards as well as its disadvantages.

Through my friendship with my neighbour who is involved in the local music scene I got to know a few musicians and a local film production company.

Via the film production company I began a friendship with a man who suffered with mental illness and to an extent housebound

I have no concept or experience with mental illness and It was very challenging for me, also to spend time with someone who is living their life on the opposite side of the day.

It seems that when people have no motivation to get up in the morning tend to sit up for half the night and then get up late, so your early evening is their morning then the trouble is your late evening is their midday so they are raring to go when you’re starting to slow down.

I helped my friend with his housework, shopping and we also spent some time creating some music which was published on Soundcloud.  Just a bit of a comedy spoof nothing serious.

In 2012, I undertook some training to be a Life Coach, it gave me great pleasure as I am passionate about being Entrepreneurial I was keen to help awaken the spirit inside him so he would explore his entrepreneurial talents and move him to a place where he could be active in the community.

I succeeded to encourage him to begin painting again which then led on to his love for theatre and it seemed his talent for being a script writer and a producer.

Well this is what he told me and also that he had achieved other things, so I had no reason to doubt it and so was carried along in the moment I guess.

It was all very feasible and convincing that I never doubted it! Well, I did a little bit of sleuthing on the web but never found a single grain of evidence to what he said which did make me wonder a bit..

Melio Media Films were going to offer my  actor cousin Mark Lindsay Chapman, a role in their new film while Mark was in  Eastbourne visiting the family, but once my friend was introduced to Mark  the whole situation totally changed.

We were planning on working together and using my Social Media skills and decided to create a film company, though at this time I wasn’t aware at the time that my friend’s involvement with past script writing and production was in fact very minimal even to the point of only brain storming new ideas and supporting someone else’s work, so I didn’t realize that he wasn’t actually capable of writing a script, so when I was talking to the Mark and his colleague  I was backing up his story that he was competent to undertake the work they were wanting to give him and so it fueled up his ego to think that he would be competent and from that point onward wouldn’t allow any form of communication from me which he understood to be negative, in other words if I dared to mention that I didn’t agree with him!!!

During this time the new film company had been created, I was suppose to be part of this team and use my social media service , but when I went to implement things I found that the Web Designer had already started and so it upset my strategy and I was cross and then more problems arose as I was told I was upsetting people and so it gave a negative reaction and another reason why he decided  I should leave  the team. Overall, I didn’t have much of a say in what happened including what I was going to do myself and so we reached a mutual understanding that I wouldn’t have any involvement with it at all!!!

Then Steve and I  had a long chat about past events and we discussed how our mutual friend had got involved with his company  and he told me that they had known each other now for about six years and he though he was helping him by giving him a little bit of work to do from home, unpaid work, but it gave him a small bit of responsibility, he had encouraged him by calling him a film producer, not realizing that our friend would take this literally and use it as a platform to try and gain trust and deceive people about his abilities.

All this came as a bit of a shock to me, especially as i had introduced him to my trusted sources!

The epilogue in this situation is that our mutual friend’s talents do not lie in script writing production but more at a level of “project manager” who has managed to gain influence to create a group of budding actors/actresses that are now creating short films.   I would say good luck to them!

This trail of events made me feel very low and I had another accident and fell down some stairs damaging my collar bone which made me feel that  I just wanted to take a back seat from everything however since I have been online for the past twenty years and have built this system with it’s various processes my life is entwined with all the other people I have linked to on the various business and social networking sites, people from all aspects of my life who regularly comment, tag and post it’s impossible to leave it alone for more than a few hours.

Currently taking a back seat and temping while i seek inspiration for my next project.

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What is your Passion and Purpose?

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My passion and purpose is to be an Entrepreneur and to inspire others to use their gifts.  It all started with the fact that our family history on my Father’s side originates from the Native Sioux Indian, via Grandmother who was in the Entertainments Business with Buffalo Bill‘s Circus

Sioux Indian’s are very spiritual – I have to confess to not knowing that much about them sadly but I do know and understand that they were very Psychic –  and my Father had inherited the gift of Psychometry.  He was very good at this and helped a lot of people.  Lots of people came to our home to have a consultation.

I had a really good relationship with my father until my mother and I joined the local Church of England Church and I was confirmed in 1971.  I think following the Christian faith and spiritually it was rather conflicting.  Spiritualism is part of the Occult – Darkness v Light.  after my Confirmation my father and I didn’t get along so well.

I was musical, was involved with singing and I learnt to play the guitar at school, participated in the choir and our school regularly put on concerts and musicals, both at my junior and the secondary school that I attended though being a Christian at school was another conflicting situation, so I didn’t have many friends and when I left school I went straight into Banking.  I worked hard but didn’t get promotion and then was introduced to a job at the local theatre setting up the drinks in the interval.  For seven years I used to work over 60 hours a week, in the Bank during the day and at the Theatre in the evenings.

In my early twenties I was re-united with my school friend who had chosen to go into the Hairdressing profession and she led me into Network Marketing,  while I was out and about in the evening with Party Planning I met my future husband,

From time to time I had gone along and had the occasional Tarot card reading, which strangely enough from time to time was quite accurate and just before I was due to marry I went and had my birth chart drawn up.  Sadly, I lost the information but did remember that I was told not to get married to this person, that we would be in conflict all the time! Well, it was too late to back out and hurt a lot of people so we got married in 1993 and had two lovely children, who are now teenagers and a great credit to us both, but sadly our relationship didn’t survive and we divorced in 2002.

SERVANT

When i had my birth-chart drawn up I was also advised that I was going to be a “Servant” “Writer” and also a “Nurse”

Well life being a journey and all these possibilities didn’t seem like they would happen to me at the time.

The years that followed the marriage break-up have been challenging and I have been glad of my involvement with the Church as a solid foundation to build my life on the ROCK of Jesus Christ.  I committed my life to Jesus and became “Born Again” in 1997, my son was born in this year and also my Mother past away.

In my early twenties through to my late thirties I was on the committee for a local social club and had a very active social life also so community building is something I have learnt with recruiting people into the club

When my children were at their junior school  I used to be a leader via the church with their youth club, I undertook this position for seven years. This also led me to go into their school with other church leaders for the “Jesus and Me Club”called “JAM Club”

In 2002 – I went back to college as a mature student and undertook the City and Guilds Diploma in IT ( the link is for info – I studied at Sussex Downs College, Eastbourne) and also changed my church and joined the Christian Outreach Centre Movement and undertook the Spirit, Soul and Body Bible School for two years.                                                                                        Within the Church we undertook the D.I.S.C personality test  and this is where I then understood the concept the Servant and Servant Leadership.    

Click on the link above to read the section “Characteristics of being a Servant Leader”

Thankfully due to my working life I have gained the experience to be a good communicator  and I am competent to make decisions.            My Spiritual Gifts give me the discernment to pay attention to what remains unspoken and it is therefore important to listen to my inner voice\affimation from the Holy Spirit.  I can rely on that inner voice in order to understand what the body, mind and spirit are communicating.        I really love technology and I have been willing to follow and learn from the Social Media Experts and Geeks to learn all i can and now my ideal client is someone who is a true Entrepreneur. Combing with my passion for music really gives me the passion to help Musicians though i am willing to extend my services to everyone connected with the Entertainments Industry.    In the past three years I have got involved with the local “Rock Music Community of Bands and Supporters and have made connectiions and new friends via their Community in London and World-wide.

WRITER –

I created this Blog – Daily Ramblings of a Professional Networker  

to portray the “Life of Networking” online and offline. A diary of life experiences.   I have had severe writer’s block for the past two years when i started to combine it with “Encouragement and Life Coaching”  I had started to train to be a “Life Coach” but finding the people who wanted a coach and also the people i wanted to coach was a challenge.  This is something i have had to put on hold temporarily for the time being though I pro-actively work as a Personal IT Coach and share articles and write articles that i share as a Social Media Expert.

NURSE

I am about to embark on a course to train to be a Carer in the Community.  I will be looking after people that rely on someone to come in and help them to remain independant by staying in their own homes.   I will be doing this on a part time basis so i can also continue with my passion and purpose as an Entrepreneur to network with those that have the heart-felt motivation to inspire others to use their Entreprenerial Talents especially in the Entertainments Industry…

 

 

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Today I had another session with my Coach…

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Today, I had my 2nd session with Ruth who is taking me through an accreditation to coach with Coachnet.org

It has taken me well over a year to mentally and emotionally be in the right place to begin to learn to be an accredited Coach. I have know Ruth quite a while so I feel at ease with her.  I received three months coaching with my senior Pastor at my church prior to this decision, during a session I was able to uncover the plan and purpose for my life.  I was able to realise this by using a powerful Ministry Gifts profiling I could see what my strengths and weaknesses were and what occupation I could use my gifts in….My main strength is the gift of Encouragement, partly stems from the fact that as a child I didn’t receive very much encouragement myself and therefore I know how important and the impact it can have on you to receive it….

The underpinning knowledge and system I will be learning is based on being a Life  Coach though I plan to use my new skills as a Business Coach.to assist young adults from 18 years onwards.

The greatest gap between successful people and unsuccessful people is the thinking gap.

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This is especially so when it comes to failure. Successful people see failure as a regular part of success, and they get over it.

When you try and do something and you fail, you know you need to try something new next time.

Attitude changes not to feel a failure but to feel that indeed life is full of challenges waiting to be overcome.

Successful people keep learning and moving forward.  Keeping that positive attitude in your mind will enable you to move forward in what you want to do!

 

Combine your passions with your skill – Explore and Nurture your Entrepreneurial Gifts

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I am combining networking to find people that might need some Coaching/Business Mentoring to help them to move them forward in their lives.  There maybe people who feel that their life is at a cross-roads.  They may have had a demanding job that due to the current financial climate has come to an end and now they are unsure which way to go.

These days there are a considerable amount of young people around that have a passion and skill that needs to be nurtured and encouraged, so that that person can explore their own gifting and go on to set up their own business.

Another example would be people that have reached middle age, have had a divorce or have been made redundant who maybe interested in turning their hobby into a business venture.

People that have proven Leadership Skills maybe interested to utilize them and get involved with a Network-Marketing Opportunity.

A Coach will endeavour to help the person to find out what they need to be doing and then help that person find ways to achieve it.

 All in the Process

  • Building a relationship
  • Clarifying Goals.
  • Brainstorming plans.
  • Trying out the Plans
  • Celebrating the successes.

 

Understanding who you are as a person and who you would like to be…

Coaching will aid you to move forwarded and be the best you can ever be.

There may be the need to make certain changes in your life.

Self –belief is needed – from a Christian point of view – all you need is the faith of a mustard seed and you can move mountains.   Keep your speech positive, surround yourself with people who encourage and someone to help you to move forward and help you to overcome the obstacles in your way…help you to find new solutions to your problems.

Help you to discover the ideas that are already inside your head.

The Coaching relationship is defined as a relationship – in which we would build trust, offer support and understanding.

Monday

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Doing what you love and love what you do.

I love socialising and meeting people.  Coming from a background as an only child and quite a shy one also, I was constantly pushed into situations where I had to go and do a lot of things on my own.  Though, in my working life, I had opportunity to change and as my first job was in the Bank and on the counter as a Cashier, I developed and acquired the confidence to speak to people from all walks of life and also over a period of time was comfortable speaking to almost anyone.

I was introduced to Network-Marketing at the age of 19 years and this birthed the Entrepreneurial Spirit in me, but it wasn’t until I got married and had children that I got the opportunity to leave the Bank and really get started to try and get a small business off the ground.

It was suggested to me that I started with Book-Keeping – I can’t say that it ignited the passion inside me that much, but I did undertake a course, then got started with a few clients when the recession came, most of them lost a lot of their clients and so I looked to do something new.

My love of meeting people especially those in other countries/cultures, led me to be a host family and eventually I did start my own little business around having adults come over to learn Business English, then I went on to be a Accommodation Arranger for an Austria Company and I undertook this for seven year.

Then I got involved with the Internet, when I got started with Internet Marketing everyone laughed and said it was crazy!!

Talking to people from all over the world is actually my passion, building relationships from which I find friends, contacts and people to work with and new projects to undertake.  So I feel I am justified to call myself a Professional Networker.

In this day and age it can be tough to find new business, I can honestly say it isn’t plan sailing for me either, but I just take each day at a time.  Inside me and other people are the hopes and dreams that are nurtured to forfil, actually requires a good deal of courage and the ability to take risks.  Takes a while for you to understand who you are as a person and then connecting to work that you really love.

When I joined Ecademy, it gave me opportunity to meet business people from all over the world then in 2007, I joined Ecademy’s  Blackstar –I felt a bit inferior at that point –    but that was something inside me that I had to work out though.

Wealth Dynamics Profiling– a personality profiling mechanism revealed that I was infact a Trader – I know that I had to create an occupation for myself around this profile and so I created the Virtual Assistant who helps people make contacts, build relationships that could that lead to business referrals and new projects.  I can show others how to develop their business around networking and using Social Media Tools to locate people in their industry/sector.

Blackstar gives you some great role models and mentors – Thomas Power – I can say that I share his enthusiasm for the networking and love for technology.   Thomas was someone that I followed in depth, over all the sites and soon I was making the contacts.  My trip to Denmark made a big impact on my working life, here I got to know my friend Tina Jonasen a bit more and then met Geert Conard.  The following year I was attending events in Belgium organised by Geert and his Belgium Blackstar colleagues.

Then we were all fortunate to go to a seminar and understand about Social Media from Louis Gray. 

As I have got so much out of being a member of the Ecademy Community I am passionate about sharing this knowledge as a service to help other people understand how Ecademy could be a useful platform for them – to learn now to network, make contacts and as we do today, share all our Social Media activities through this network.   Advanced technology enables us to share all our activities, even LinkedIn has begun to follow suit.

On a day to day bases it can be quite overwhelming and you need to have a strategy in place.  I was intending to be a Digital Coach. Looking at others who have this role – I can see that for them, it is their passion and they have the flair to do it.  I do continue in my capacity as a Digital Minded Virtual Assistance and offer people services to advise them on how they can be “visible”and also Social Media Designer

Earlier on this year I had some Life Coaching sessions, I undertook the D.I.S.C profiling test and this revealed to me that my plan and purpose was in fact to support other people who needed to be encouraged to step out in faith and pursue self-employment, there are also people who are at a cross-roads in life that need support and encouragement to meet new goals.

I am starting in January 2012 my training to be a Life Coach and help others explore the question of who they really are and connect to work that they truly love – in doing so will be productive and unleash creative power.

Love what you do and you will be able to engage your heart in it.  My passion for travel and meeting the different people from various cultures led me back into networking marketing – World Ventures is a wonderful opportunity for people that love to travel and also need a new direction in their life.  Initial investment is small to get started.  I got my initial investment back within the first six months, but it is possible to do this in the first 30 days if you commit to following the training that is offered and focus.

There are events organised every week so you can meet up with other people and also you can participate online, which is what I do for most of the time which keep you engaged in the business. For more information read…

 

 

Thursday

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An Effective Mentor always tries to put themselves in the learner’s place.

Carefully and tactfully correct someone, looking at the situation from their view point, with the aim to be their advocate and not their adversary to give them that reassurance that you intentionally have that desire to see them grow as a person in character to enable them to succeed.

People that have had a history of abuse in their childhood or have been involved in an abusive relationship with a partner or spouse may have had to overcome a victim mentality.  If you have played the “Blame Game” for long enough you will feel that all situations that you are involved in – the fault may lie with yourself.

When you are caught up in a shame spiral your natural reflexes to accept and process criticism don’t comprehend too well.  If you have been made to feel like you were never valued and were useless and stupid, and now you instinctively give too much power to criticism.

You need to look at yourself and what you are good at, then you can re-build your self-esteem.  You need to be accountable to someone who will guide you and encourage you to meet your goals one step at a time.  A Life Coach can help you to move forward.