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Are you at the Crossroads of Life?

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 Which path do you choose – that of personal gain or making the choice to help others?

 The more difficult higher road of helping others, you would be amazed at the impact you will make. Well, it doesn’t mean you have to give up what you want to do…, you can use what you have already accomplished for yourself to help others. Don’t simply aspire to make a living; aspire to make a difference… I have no interest in what you have—only in you.

In getting and gaining you become successful, but only in helping others do you become significant!!!!

 

In getting and gaining you become successful, but only in helping others do you become significant.

 

Weird how things develop, one action in a particular direction…..

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 …can create a different set of events.  That’s how it all started, never my intention to spend a lot of time in this particular pub as rock music wasn’t high on my agenda, in the beginning I didn’t like it at all and I didn’t really like the people that went there either…

Not that I think I am better than them or anything like that, I just couldn’t relate to them…then one day I was convicted that I should make an effort to befriend a few.   Not that difficult, there was a small group that my friend knew and at the end of the evening they were most often the worst for wear, their consumption of alcohol would have taken it’s toll and I would help them get home in my car.  On those occasions I would only have one alcoholic drink myself.

We may disagree on this issue as a Christian, nowhere in the Bible does it say you can’t have a drink, just says don’t get drunk.  For your own protection really as it alters your mindset, you end up saying and doing things you other wise wouldn’t have done. 

 I can confess to being partial to a glass of red wine or two which is relaxing  so evidently the car these days gets left at home and I get a lift there and back and sometimes share a taxi home…

Over the past three years we have all met up a lot at the pub, we have all gone to Butlins a couple of times as well to the 70’s Weekends, we have had meals at my home…  These days I know most people there at the pub and I’m there every weekend.  I have a vast mixture of friends both young and old…

The small group of people that once I would not have had anytime for are now my friends and I have begun to understand why they are drinking so heavily, the ultimate weight of their lives issues.  Disappointments, heartbreaks generally everything that goes on in my life too and this is just their way of handling it. 

I have gently probed them about their understanding of God, most of them are not believers, or once they did have a faith but there have been major issues in their life which have eroded it away…

The music has sort of grown on me, the bands; I am now keen to attend when they play at our pub.    I see that in fact it is a great passion for many people to be singing and one Christmas I went to a Christmas event and heard a local band, befriended them on Facebook and for a while followed the person  the person led me to know other women who share the passion for the music…

We became almost “rent a crowd” , where the band plays locally we will be there.  I noticed the person took advantage of his role as the leader and was exploiting it with who ever was willing to be taken advantage of, needless to say a few broken hearts have developed and our group has  gone from “rent a crowd” to just us two! My friend and I who have decided not to entertain any of this

At the very last moment the other week I went to the Congress Theatre to see one of the UK Tribute bands for Led Zepplin – I have never thought about listening to this band, never bought a record in my life, but despite acoustics being really poor, probably as the venue was half empty I could see the singers had a passion for the music, I couldn’t hear the words but I enjoyed the instrumental side of it.    

I connected with them on Facebook, just the same as I do with anyone else….

Last Saturday at our pub we had a guest singer with a group that probably sing there once a month… I only discovered this when I went to look at the photo’s. This time I am not in any photos as I didn’t go near the front due to the of the heat of the evening being so humid outside the inside was about 35c…made the discovery that the singer was in fact with a very famous tribute band Letz Zepp, of course I have never heard of them and since have just carried out a little bit of research.   I am interested to know more about the spiritual side of it as having been told about the darkness that is involved with it while doing so I pray against the darkness  and believe for God’s protection

 

 

 
 

Guidelines of how to accomplish your Purpose in Life.

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Successfully, share your dream with other people.

Connect with them in the following ways;-

Logically

What people don’t believe – they don’t buy into. Share your vision and communicate what is happening today! Communicate an understanding of the successes and also the challenges you are overcoming.   

Create a Strategy

 Share the strategy, i.e  how we can expect to move forward step-by-step  and create goals to move us forward.   Ideally, work as a team –  different tasks are delegated to individuals, the task seems more attainable and each person involved has an increased sense of personal ownership and involvement.

 Together – Everyone – Achieves – More

Share your Dream Emotionally

Can you communicate your passion!    When we work hard and are successful, we receive rewards, we get excited about them

We seek like-minded people, to partner up with us, we understand that 10% of people are Pioneers, 70% percent are Settlers and 20%  are Antagonists.

 My goal is to win over the Pioneers, to wait for the Settlers and to leave the Antagonists behind.  Which category do you fall into?  Comment on the POLL

 Share your Dream Visually

 When people understand what you are trying to do and achieve they will buy into it.

 Most people want to feel that they are part of something bigger than themselves, when a dream is truly great it benefits everyone.. You need to help them connect with the opportunities for achieving personal growth, finding fulfillment and increasing their self-esteem.

 Communicate the reasons you chose to do what you did and what price or sacrifices you were willing to make to make sure you will achieve your dream..

 Live the dream, practice integrity and then you achieve a degree of success, the results will speak for themselves and people that have the same mindset will take ownership of it and join you.

 

 

 

 

Perseverance

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Are you a mere Starter but also a Finisher?

When the enthusiasm for a new idea fades, do you carry on or make excuses and quit?

When the odds against you increase and the results diminish you just strive to continue and not take your eyes off the dream of the end result.  Quitting is more about who you are, than where you are or what you are up against.  We all have our excuses but external influences should not hold you back!

Most of us stop ourselves from reaching our full potential.  We can pretend that people, situations and things outside of ourselves are to blame, but really it is our self image and lack of confidence that tries dampen our enthusiasm and achievements.

Strive to achieve that positive mindset and keep on keeping on until you reach your goal

 

 

 

Faith is like a muscle;

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if you don’t exercise it consistently it will atrophy and become powerless.

When I speak about my “faith” to non –believers they find it difficult to comprehend.

Just like everything else if you don’t pay attention to it, it will eventually disappear,

Actively, applying faith to situations that need a godly power and believing that these situations will come to pass will make your faith grow when you see the results of prayer and the positive thinking that goes hand-in hand with it.

I know that I am in the right place, so also believe that God will see me through the challenges that will come; each one will teach me something about myself and enable me to grow stronger in my character.