#Motivation

ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

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Attitude of Gratitude .

I want to express my gratitude for my connections and reflect on the valuable experiences we’ve shared through our collaborations and the communities we’ve been part of.

Your support has been instrumental in our collective success. and I truly appreciate the journey we’ve taken together .

With my entrepreneurial pursuits I understand the concept that working as a team and building a community can have outstanding results. Not a one man show, everyone plays a part, no matter how small.

Many of us have missed out on a lot of opportunities. In theses days and age there are so many projects, literally tens of thousands out there and even thousands launch every single day.

Scepticism, lack of time, money and fear because of the lack of skill set has held us back from committing and getting involved

I have always sought to support individuals who, like myself start at ground level and are willing to adapt and grow on their journey to success.

Despite the decline in some industries there are still plenty of equally valuable opportunities available.

There will always be a better product or better system, but it’s how we relate to ourselves, the project and how the community come together that creates the amazing team and community.

When assessing an opportunity it’s important to focus on the source to get the most accurate facts, do not make your assessment by who shares the opportunity with you. Evaluate the situation and make your decision based on your own intellect, values, vision and personal relevance.

Spring users in fresh opportunties.

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What Exciting Plans Await Us On Today’s Schedule…

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Did You Learn Your Lesson?

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The experience I went through taught me a valuable lesson that I will never forget. It was a challenging and sometimes painful journey, but it ultimately shaped me into a wiser and more resilient individual.

At first, I resisted the idea of learning from my mistakes. I was stubborn and believed that I knew better. However, life had other plans for me. It presented me with a series of setbacks and failures that forced me to confront my own limitations and shortcomings.

As I stumbled and fell, I began to realise that there was something to be gained from these experiences. I started to pay closer attention to the patterns and behaviors that led to my downfalls. I analyzed my actions and decisions, seeking to understand where I went wrong.

It was not an easy process. It required me to be brutally honest with myself and acknowledge my own flaws. I had to let go of my ego and accept responsibility for my mistakes. This was a humbling experience, but it was also liberating. It allowed me to take control of my own growth and development.

I sought guidance from mentors and sought out resources to expand my knowledge and skills. I read books, attended workshops, and engaged in meaningful conversations with people who had wisdom to share. I realized that learning from others’ experiences could save me from making the same mistakes they had made.

But the most important lesson I learned was the power of perseverance. I discovered that setbacks and failures were not the end of the road, but rather opportunities for growth. I learned to pick myself up, dust myself off, and keep moving forward. I embraced the idea that failure was not a reflection of my worth, but rather a stepping stone towards success.

Through this experience, I learned that learning from my mistakes was not a one-time event, but a lifelong journey. It required me to be open-minded, adaptable, and willing to change. It taught me the importance of self-reflection and continuous improvement.

Now, whenever I face a challenge or make a mistake, I approach it with a different mindset. I see it as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than a reason to give up. I am grateful for the lessons I have learned and the person I have become as a result.

In conclusion, the experience I went through taught me the invaluable lesson of learning from my mistakes. It taught me to be humble, resilient, and open to growth. It transformed me into a better version of myself and continues to shape my journey towards personal and professional success.

We ain’t trying to keep up with the Jones’s no more….

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#KeepingupwiththeJoneses.

This came to mind when I was at my Aqua class on Saturday morning. The ways we all used to wants to be competitive, we were striving for so many things.

In the early 80’s I was working in two jobs, all day in the National Westminster Bank PLC and then in the evening working in the local theatre.

I never knew there was a song written about this! You can find the lyrics on lyrics.com.

Everyone trying to obtain possessions. Racking up lots of debt.

All the possessions bought on credit are having their toll these days. Interest rates rising and the cost of living going sky high.

There is the option to either spend less, or find a way to earn more.

I’ve found a way to earn more – email me for more details Stella@dailyramblingsofaprofessionalnetworker.com

The Sober Friend….

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On a sobering note ……..

If you consider drinking and driving these days. With the amount of daily accidents on our roads it really is not at all wise. If you are involved in an accident and even if it’s not your fault you could loose your licence and even go to prison if someone gets injured or killed.

I’d loose my job if I lost my licence and no doubt you would too!!

In the autumn, my family made me promise not to get behind the wheel of a car after drinking, my son says he doesn’t want me to miss all the celebrations of the forth coming birthdays and Christmases in future years.

I know people turn to alcohol in times of stress. Go home after work and have a strong drink. But, I’ve cut back on drinking because my daily expenses have risen with the price of diesel and commuting to the office 3 or 4 days a week. Also, the increase in energy bills.

Actually, I feel a lot healthier for drinking less.

September

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September went fast.

Ultra Challenge Day went well. Met a few new people (women) that enjoyed walking. Discussed doing a similar challenge next year. I said it would need to be flatter, enjoyed the sunshine and got a lot of exercise. My feet survived it. No blisters thankfully.

Week 2 – not so good- thought I had a Gastritis flare up, chemist gave me “Milk of Magnesia” which really seemed to give me a burning sensation in my gut. For a long time, I was unable to eat anything. Just drinking sips of water and lying in bed due to having a fever. Went back to work on the Thursday and found two others had had the same issue.

Week 3 – my long awaited vacation but due to a type of gastric flu not able to venture out too much. Most plans for this week cancelled because of the death of Queen Elisabeth.

In a way I was grateful not to have to go up to London even though I had been looking forward to seeing my Entrepreneurial friends. Not seen them in person since before lockdown/covid. Actually, I’ve not been on a train since before Covid either.

I have just been driving in my car and using the bus. Started my Sussex Gospel Partnership Bible Study Course, one a month for 2 years.

Week 3- On my week off I went to the local health club, went to watch some friends playing in their bands at various venues in Hastings.

Week 4 – Then I was fortunate to be able to work from home for a few weeks.

Discovered I had lost 10kilos. Now I can wear my super dry jacket again.

Keen to keep up the fitness regime. Making sure I actively walk or go to the gym weekly to walk on the treadmill.

Regrets, I’ve had a few,

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the opportunities that I thought were for me, only to discovered I didn’t have what it took to bring them to fruition.

Sins – thought, word and sometimes deeds.  I am not perfect but I am thankful that by the grace of God my sins are forgiven when I am repenting and renounce my sins

The relationships I tried to cultivate with non-believers that made me angry because of the lack of commitment, distrust and no inner peace.

I am grateful now i realise that all these situations taught me wisdom and instilled in me the discernment to know that in all situations God has to be first.

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. “

In relationships – 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 (Adapted from The Message)

“ Don’t become partners  ( close relationships/ in business) with those who reject Jesus as God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way:

“I’ll live in them, move into them;

I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people.

So leave the corruption and compromise;

leave it for good,” says God.

“Don’t link up with those who’s ideas go against God’s will for your life”

It is of great benefit when I spend time in the word each day, even in my busy life I know it is important to still  make time for God. My smart phone is my best resource to have the Bible app, subscribe to daily prayer and bible readings, listen to podcasts from inspiring speakers. and enjoy listening to inspiring worship leaders on Spotify.

I am a member of All Saints Church, Eastbourne  and attend a home group every week and get prayer support for my needs.

Try to give with a willing heart via tithing 10% of my earnings.

Each and every morning in prayer I bring my daily needs to God and believe that he answers and hears my prayers.  I have a prayer journal so I can look back and see my progress.

I believe that God has opened doors for me that cannot be closed and that he will continue to draw towards me the right people to help me succeed and give me wisdom and guidance. I thank God for the seeds that are being sow and that they are bearing fruit.  I believe that God gives me the Holy Spirit to empower me to carry out the work he has put on my heart to carry out and that he is daily guiding my steps.

I thank God to renew my heart and mind so I can aspire to clearly display the fruit of the Spirit in my daily life – the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Having the heart and destiny for “Servant Leadership” can have its rewards as well as its disadvantages

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Having the heart and destiny for “Servant Leadership” can have its rewards as well as its disadvantages.

Through my friendship with my neighbour who is involved in the local music scene I got to know a few musicians and a local film production company.

Via the film production company I began a friendship with a man who suffered with mental illness and to an extent housebound

I have no concept or experience with mental illness and It was very challenging for me, also to spend time with someone who is living their life on the opposite side of the day.

It seems that when people have no motivation to get up in the morning tend to sit up for half the night and then get up late, so your early evening is their morning then the trouble is your late evening is their midday so they are raring to go when you’re starting to slow down.

I helped my friend with his housework, shopping and we also spent some time creating some music which was published on Soundcloud.  Just a bit of a comedy spoof nothing serious.

In 2012, I undertook some training to be a Life Coach, it gave me great pleasure as I am passionate about being Entrepreneurial I was keen to help awaken the spirit inside him so he would explore his entrepreneurial talents and move him to a place where he could be active in the community.

I succeeded to encourage him to begin painting again which then led on to his love for theatre and it seemed his talent for being a script writer and a producer.

Well this is what he told me and also that he had achieved other things, so I had no reason to doubt it and so was carried along in the moment I guess.

It was all very feasible and convincing that I never doubted it! Well, I did a little bit of sleuthing on the web but never found a single grain of evidence to what he said which did make me wonder a bit..

Melio Media Films were going to offer my  actor cousin Mark Lindsay Chapman, a role in their new film while Mark was in  Eastbourne visiting the family, but once my friend was introduced to Mark  the whole situation totally changed.

We were planning on working together and using my Social Media skills and decided to create a film company, though at this time I wasn’t aware at the time that my friend’s involvement with past script writing and production was in fact very minimal even to the point of only brain storming new ideas and supporting someone else’s work, so I didn’t realize that he wasn’t actually capable of writing a script, so when I was talking to the Mark and his colleague  I was backing up his story that he was competent to undertake the work they were wanting to give him and so it fueled up his ego to think that he would be competent and from that point onward wouldn’t allow any form of communication from me which he understood to be negative, in other words if I dared to mention that I didn’t agree with him!!!

During this time the new film company had been created, I was suppose to be part of this team and use my social media service , but when I went to implement things I found that the Web Designer had already started and so it upset my strategy and I was cross and then more problems arose as I was told I was upsetting people and so it gave a negative reaction and another reason why he decided  I should leave  the team. Overall, I didn’t have much of a say in what happened including what I was going to do myself and so we reached a mutual understanding that I wouldn’t have any involvement with it at all!!!

Then Steve and I  had a long chat about past events and we discussed how our mutual friend had got involved with his company  and he told me that they had known each other now for about six years and he though he was helping him by giving him a little bit of work to do from home, unpaid work, but it gave him a small bit of responsibility, he had encouraged him by calling him a film producer, not realizing that our friend would take this literally and use it as a platform to try and gain trust and deceive people about his abilities.

All this came as a bit of a shock to me, especially as i had introduced him to my trusted sources!

The epilogue in this situation is that our mutual friend’s talents do not lie in script writing production but more at a level of “project manager” who has managed to gain influence to create a group of budding actors/actresses that are now creating short films.   I would say good luck to them!

This trail of events made me feel very low and I had another accident and fell down some stairs damaging my collar bone which made me feel that  I just wanted to take a back seat from everything however since I have been online for the past twenty years and have built this system with it’s various processes my life is entwined with all the other people I have linked to on the various business and social networking sites, people from all aspects of my life who regularly comment, tag and post it’s impossible to leave it alone for more than a few hours.

Currently taking a back seat and temping while i seek inspiration for my next project.

Why do we allow our thoughts to give us limitations? (1)

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The fear of loss is a motivating factor if it can propel you in to action, .however you may in the beginning be paralysed with negative thoughts that stop you changing your mindset and doing things differently…

Life is very challenging for me at present and also I can empathise with those near and dear to me that are also finding that they have challenges to overcome.

We had an interesting morning in our church on Sunday, Pastors Ashley and Ruth Schmierer were our guest speakers. Ps Ashley was talking about how he had been limited as a child by the negative comments his teachers had made about him. That he was the clown in the class and that they didn’t think he would amount to anything. He is now the COC International President.

Ps Ashley, was speaking about how we allow our thoughts to give us limitations on what we can achieve in our lives.

For those of us that have a FAITH /Christianity is about having a relationship with Jesus via prayer, praise and reading the Bible, those that have given their life to him and invited the Holy Spirit to live in them then can understand the scriptures and the power in them to transform lives. It is also important to have Christian fellowship, always there will be people in the body of Christ that you don’t see eye to eye with, but you can also find people that you do get along with and these people will inspire and encourage you in you daily walk and you can do the same for them. I have found FACEBOOK really powerful for this and daily connect and share content with my fellow Christian connections all over the world.

In our every day lives we have to get along with people that have no faith at all and we do our best to get along with them as we care about them as they are our friends.

In the case of the work place we find that we have to adhere to the thoughts and intentions of those of whom do not follow the same mindset. This is where the root of negative thinking starts to rise… Other people’s perspectives start to cloud our thinking.

In the case of the working environment you might have to follow the plan and purpose for someone else’s business…, you might well find yourself in the same situation that happened to me that someone used a rather calculated method to gain my attention and support.

Have you heard about the Chameleon in the Office scenario?

Do read the interesting blog written by my colleague- Blackstar Sharon Egan – I actually I winced when I first read it  –The third paragraph down was in fact the very thing that snared me– “So, when with you, they’ll mirror your beliefs, your values, your attitudes… and, because of that, create fantastic rapport with you. You’d think they were your best buddy..-Apparently, this is a ploy taught in sales and in particular network-marketing.   Of course in my case – I am a “Connector” sitting on a rather a large database of names which is appealing to people that are building lists of people to contact.

My personality in business is Servant Leadership- with the main concern of helping someone else to achieve their purpose and goals…I align myself to the people with the same mindset…

Coming back to the shared mindset and what would actually attract you to work with someone to see that their goal to earn a living happened and what would you feel like when the truth dawned on you that their why had changed so much that you had that gut feeling that now life was treating them so well (not through their own efforts might I add) the initial effort that they seemed to put in currently was none existent…   I can remember when I first got started first words given to me were we are here to build the network and forget about the product. 

Leadership requires patience and perseverance; I also think that to really take heed and respect the circumstances of others is important.  I think back now and wonder why did I align myself up with people that really didn’t care at all about the plans and purposes of others, why did I get swept away with the dream that this was going to be the way forward for me….

There are however, people in this business who are doing exceedingly well and are making the money that gives them the lifestyle that is promised, those with a true heart of a team spirit.   

In the very beginning I know I was on to a winner as the money came through as a result of prayer and it all worked well for the first six months or so, then people that joined the team all dropped away and those that are left are not in it to build the team, just there for the enjoyment of the product.  Fundamentally, core values of a Servant Leadership – not just about looking after yourself but about looking after other people.    Therefore encouraging people that have no surplus income over and above existing expenses to overspend is immoral.  Also, coming back to the beginning regarding negative comments building a team based on “Trusting relationships as the foundation for collaboration and service, affirming that all relationships should be based on trust and mutual respect, not power, status or coercion. Coercion – (like a form of bullying, threats or
intimidation.) 

Taking all of these circumstances into consideration I now realise why that breakthrough that I really needed to happen hasn’t…..