1st to 6th September 2013.

My teenagers were away this week and I had the support of friends to come in and feed me. Lots of home cooked meals have been prepared and bought in plus a lovely Paella cooked in my kitchen.

Fortunately, i work from home promoting Organo Gold and World Ventures and then provide my Social Media Strategy Consultancy. I did intend to go to London on 6/9/13 to meet up with #Sunzu /past #Ecademists but this had to be cancelled. Fortunately, alot of these contacts are on Facebook & Twitter so they are really close at hand for me and networking online has been something i have undertaken for the past twenty years so I am quite competent with it.

Just have to put a few projects on hold and concentrate on finding some new ones where i can just be online to share content and will need to start using online tools i.e Google #Hangouts to have long distance conversations with potential new clients.

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27th August 2013- Thanks Sweety @SoniaHolman

Well, when i came round after my hip opp it was lovely that my daughter stayed to make sure i was ok. Had to have screws put in my hip to aid the fracture to mend. Glad that i wasn’t having a full hip replacement as I know this is a horrendous operation.  The surgeon had read me terms and conditions and advised what could go wrong to get my signature but we believe that God sees us through these things and my dying at 52 was too young for me with so much yet to achieve and do in my life.

On the contrary, i haven’t experienced a lot of pain as this has been under control by medication.

What is your Passion and Purpose?

My passion and purpose is to be an Entrepreneur and to inspire others to use their gifts.  It all started with the fact that our family history on my Father’s side originates from the Native Sioux Indian, via Grandmother who was in the Entertainments Business with Buffalo Bill‘s Circus

Sioux Indian’s are very spiritual – I have to confess to not knowing that much about them sadly but I do know and understand that they were very Psychic –  and my Father had inherited the gift of PsychometryHe was very good at this and helped a lot of people.  Lots of people came to our home to have a consultation.

I had a really good relationship with my father until my mother and I joined the local Church of England Church and I was confirmed in 1971.  I think following the Christian faith and spiritually it was rather conflicting.  Spiritualism is part of the Occult – Darkness v Light.  after my Confirmation my father and I didn’t get along so well.

I was musical, was involved with singing and I learnt to play the guitar at school, participated in the choir and our school regularly put on concerts and musicals, both at my junior and the secondary school that I attended though being a Christian at school was another conflicting situation, so I didn’t have many friends and when I left school I went straight into Banking.  I worked hard but didn’t get promotion and then was introduced to a job at the local theatre setting up the drinks in the interval.  For seven years I used to work over 60 hours a week, in the Bank during the day and at the Theatre in the evenings.

In my early twenties I was re-united with my school friend who had chosen to go into the Hairdressing profession and she led me into Network Marketing,  while I was out and about in the evening with Party Planning I met my future husband,

From time to time I had gone along and had the occasional Tarot card reading, which strangely enough from time to time was quite accurate and just before I was due to marry I went and had my birth chart drawn up.  Sadly, I lost the information but did remember that I was told not to get married to this person, that we would be in conflict all the time! Well, it was too late to back out and hurt a lot of people so we got married in 1993 and had two lovely children, who are now teenagers and a great credit to us both, but sadly our relationship didn’t survive and we divorced in 2002.

SERVANT

When i had my birth-chart drawn up I was also advised that I was going to be a “Servant” “Writer” and also a “Nurse”

Well life being a journey and all these possibilities didn’t seem like they would happen to me at the time.

The years that followed the marriage break-up have been challenging and I have been glad of my involvement with the Church as a solid foundation to build my life on the ROCK of Jesus Christ.  I committed my life to Jesus and became “Born Again” in 1997, my son was born in this year and also my Mother past away.

In my early twenties through to my late thirties I was on the committee for a local social club and had a very active social life also so community building is something I have learnt with recruiting people into the club

When my children were at their junior school  I used to be a leader via the church with their youth club, I undertook this position for seven years. This also led me to go into their school with other church leaders for the “Jesus and Me Club”called “JAM Club”

In 2002 – I went back to college as a mature student and undertook the City and Guilds Diploma in IT ( the link is for info – I studied at Sussex Downs College, Eastbourne) and also changed my church and joined the Christian Outreach Centre Movement and undertook the Spirit, Soul and Body Bible School for two years.                                                                                        Within the Church we undertook the D.I.S.C personality test  and this is where I then understood the concept the Servant and Servant Leadership.    

Click on the link above to read the section “Characteristics of being a Servant Leader”

Thankfully due to my working life I have gained the experience to be a good communicator  and I am competent to make decisions.            My Spiritual Gifts give me the discernment to pay attention to what remains unspoken and it is therefore important to listen to my inner voice\affimation from the Holy Spirit.  I can rely on that inner voice in order to understand what the body, mind and spirit are communicating.        I really love technology and I have been willing to follow and learn from the Social Media Experts and Geeks to learn all i can and now my ideal client is someone who is a true Entrepreneur. Combing with my passion for music really gives me the passion to help Musicians though i am willing to extend my services to everyone connected with the Entertainments Industry.    In the past three years I have got involved with the local “Rock Music Community of Bands and Supporters and have made connectiions and new friends via their Community in London and World-wide.

WRITER –

I created this Blog – Daily Ramblings of a Professional Networker  

to portray the “Life of Networking” online and offline. A diary of life experiences.   I have had severe writer’s block for the past two years when i started to combine it with “Encouragement and Life Coaching”  I had started to train to be a “Life Coach” but finding the people who wanted a coach and also the people i wanted to coach was a challenge.  This is something i have had to put on hold temporarily for the time being though I pro-actively work as a Personal IT Coach and share articles and write articles that i share as a Social Media Expert.

NURSE

I am about to embark on a course to train to be a Carer in the Community.  I will be looking after people that rely on someone to come in and help them to remain independant by staying in their own homes.   I will be doing this on a part time basis so i can also continue with my passion and purpose as an Entrepreneur to network with those that have the heart-felt motivation to inspire others to use their Entreprenerial Talents especially in the Entertainments Industry…

 

 

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Friday I’m in Love

Friday I’m in Love – was a blog I wrote last year that explained about my love for networking and going out and meeting other Entrepreneurs.  The event I wrote about was at the Business Franchise Exhibition at the ExCeL London Exhibition and Convention Centre, where I was allocated to chair a mock-up for a Boardroom in alliance with the Ecademy Business Network

Last Friday I went to a local free networking event to meet up with someone I made contact with on Twitter who advised me that she has been following my Tweets for a few weeks and had read my recently blog and identified with my situation.

We identified the strengths and weaknesses that we both come across in our daily work and agreed to see if we could collaborate to form an alliance.

Now I will be putting together a proposal for her to view to make plans to move ahead.

Following on from banter on my Twitter ac @Stella_Holman this week…

…I made a new connection in my town who said she had been following me for several weeks and liked the content on what I posted.   Now I have been invited to attend a local networking event on Friday organised by EDEAL in one of our hotels.

Since I have been sharing pictures and events of the group Letz Zep  though out my various Social Media sites I have made lots of new contacts in the Music Industry.  Weirdly enough out of the blue I started to be tagged in the pictures of Letz Zep on Facebook that had been taken by Musikota.Com

The Tribute Band Guns and Roses from Bilbao also seem to be tagged back to me, I think probably my business friends and contacts from church will think I have flipped!!

All this tagging on Facebook has made a vast improvement to my Klout scores which took a noise dive to 59 when I added one of my Facebook pages and took off my personal account.. All this recent activity bought it back to 75 and it has since increased to 76 this week – http://klout.com/#/Stella_Holman.

All about “Giver’s Gain”  I couldn’t achieve this without collaboration from other people.

ROI – Return on Investment then is the people that then get in touch with you about either your services or perhaps in my case how what I do could help them with their own Social Media Marketing.

 

Good night!

 

 

 

 

Are you Satisfied with an Average Life?

Do I need to lie to make my way in Life?

Exaggeration is also a form of lying and should be avoided at all counts…

Typically, Monday was like any other day though it was a inset day so my son Julian was off school and as he had sat up half the night on his Xbox live at 11am he was still asleep

 My daughter Sonia is still trying to get her toe healed after having an Ulcer and spends large amounts in time in bed. She can’t get a job at the moment as she is unable to wear shoes so she has no money and is fed-up.

 In some respects the negativity of it all is draining my energy levels; I used to enjoy working from home, now I am seeking ways to escape.

 I was due to start a new project working with a London based business who was receiving funding to get his “Mobile phone applications business up and running but it appears he has been scammed and now is having to take the Investment Company and their agent to court.  The agent so it appears has stolen the money and so this London company is not able to do anything at all, least of all pay me to commence all the social media work.  

 Maybe it is a selfish though to think and say that all the plans I had for this year now won’t happen.  My trip to Amsterdam to see my friend Jet Rotmans and go to see LetzZep with her at the Melkweg Theatre has to be cancelled.  Going along to a Organo Gold Presentation and meeting Gerry Van Zantvoort and Helen Roosing won’t happen either as we are now almost in to March.

 For the past six years I have worked with Ecademy as part of their support team and that has gone now as well.  When it changed over to Sunzu they already had a team in place and the old team including yours truly have been left behind.  For the past six years I have lived and breathed Ecademy and business networking and now I am feeling a bit lost.  

 I’ve had to put my coaching course on hold as well.  I can’t seek myself getting back into that again either.  Most things are standing in a check-mate state.

 I just feel in a paralysed state

How to be more Visible Locally and Attract more Customers

MARCH 2013 – OFFER

Starting point is to perform an assessment of the current digital presence and Social Media activity of your company in order to establish a current Online Presence Performance Baseline.

Your objective is to be visible on the INTERNET. The underpinning solution for this campaign would be to share written content to attract enquirers /leads that can be followed up (by your sales team )and converted into sales/subscribers/customers

(1) Who are you going to target?
(2) In what demographic area? i.e. London only?
(3) In what sector? Health, Travel i.e.?
(4) Confirm your trading for this project?
(5) What keyword/buzz word would you like me to use? i.e #SunZu

Online Presence Performance Plan will consist;

Digital Marketing using internet connected devicesplatformscommunities to
engage with your potential clients – creating and implementing online advertising in the form of BLOGS, #JPEGS, TWEETS -Real-time comments- to engage your potential clients.

List Building – Using the relevant Social Media channels to create your target audience, engaging and relationship building. Find and share content applicable to your services and products.

Through the different social channels I will create, find and share content that
is valuable and useful to your audience therefore increasing the number of people that will advocate your brand..

Daily activities will include ;
Engaging with potential and current customers online
Increase relevant traffic to the new Facebook Fan page/web.

Contact me at stella@dailyramblingsofaprofessionalnetworker.com

Why do we allow our thoughts to give us limitations? (1)

The fear of loss is a motivating factor if it can propel you in to action, .however you may in the beginning be paralysed with negative thoughts that stop you changing your mindset and doing things differently…

Life is very challenging for me at present and also I can empathise with those near and dear to me that are also finding that they have challenges to overcome.

We had an interesting morning in our church on Sunday, Pastors Ashley and Ruth Schmierer were our guest speakers. Ps Ashley was talking about how he had been limited as a child by the negative comments his teachers had made about him. That he was the clown in the class and that they didn’t think he would amount to anything. He is now the COC International President.

Ps Ashley, was speaking about how we allow our thoughts to give us limitations on what we can achieve in our lives.

For those of us that have a FAITH /Christianity is about having a relationship with Jesus via prayer, praise and reading the Bible, those that have given their life to him and invited the Holy Spirit to live in them then can understand the scriptures and the power in them to transform lives. It is also important to have Christian fellowship, always there will be people in the body of Christ that you don’t see eye to eye with, but you can also find people that you do get along with and these people will inspire and encourage you in you daily walk and you can do the same for them. I have found FACEBOOK really powerful for this and daily connect and share content with my fellow Christian connections all over the world.

In our every day lives we have to get along with people that have no faith at all and we do our best to get along with them as we care about them as they are our friends.

In the case of the work place we find that we have to adhere to the thoughts and intentions of those of whom do not follow the same mindset. This is where the root of negative thinking starts to rise… Other people’s perspectives start to cloud our thinking.

In the case of the working environment you might have to follow the plan and purpose for someone else’s business…, you might well find yourself in the same situation that happened to me that someone used a rather calculated method to gain my attention and support.

Have you heard about the Chameleon in the Office scenario?

Do read the interesting blog written by my colleague- Blackstar Sharon Egan – I actually I winced when I first read it  –The third paragraph down was in fact the very thing that snared me– “So, when with you, they’ll mirror your beliefs, your values, your attitudes… and, because of that, create fantastic rapport with you. You’d think they were your best buddy..-Apparently, this is a ploy taught in sales and in particular network-marketing.   Of course in my case – I am a “Connector” sitting on a rather a large database of names which is appealing to people that are building lists of people to contact.

My personality in business is Servant Leadership- with the main concern of helping someone else to achieve their purpose and goals…I align myself to the people with the same mindset…

Coming back to the shared mindset and what would actually attract you to work with someone to see that their goal to earn a living happened and what would you feel like when the truth dawned on you that their why had changed so much that you had that gut feeling that now life was treating them so well (not through their own efforts might I add) the initial effort that they seemed to put in currently was none existent…   I can remember when I first got started first words given to me were we are here to build the network and forget about the product. 

Leadership requires patience and perseverance; I also think that to really take heed and respect the circumstances of others is important.  I think back now and wonder why did I align myself up with people that really didn’t care at all about the plans and purposes of others, why did I get swept away with the dream that this was going to be the way forward for me….

There are however, people in this business who are doing exceedingly well and are making the money that gives them the lifestyle that is promised, those with a true heart of a team spirit.   

In the very beginning I know I was on to a winner as the money came through as a result of prayer and it all worked well for the first six months or so, then people that joined the team all dropped away and those that are left are not in it to build the team, just there for the enjoyment of the product.  Fundamentally, core values of a Servant Leadership – not just about looking after yourself but about looking after other people.    Therefore encouraging people that have no surplus income over and above existing expenses to overspend is immoral.  Also, coming back to the beginning regarding negative comments building a team based on “Trusting relationships as the foundation for collaboration and service, affirming that all relationships should be based on trust and mutual respect, not power, status or coercion. Coercion – (like a form of bullying, threats or
intimidation.) 

Taking all of these circumstances into consideration I now realise why that breakthrough that I really needed to happen hasn’t…..

Today I had another session with my Coach…

Today, I had my 2nd session with Ruth who is taking me through an accreditation to coach with Coachnet.org

It has taken me well over a year to mentally and emotionally be in the right place to begin to learn to be an accredited Coach. I have know Ruth quite a while so I feel at ease with her.  I received three months coaching with my senior Pastor at my church prior to this decision, during a session I was able to uncover the plan and purpose for my life.  I was able to realise this by using a powerful Ministry Gifts profiling I could see what my strengths and weaknesses were and what occupation I could use my gifts in….My main strength is the gift of Encouragement, partly stems from the fact that as a child I didn’t receive very much encouragement myself and therefore I know how important and the impact it can have on you to receive it….

The underpinning knowledge and system I will be learning is based on being a Life  Coach though I plan to use my new skills as a Business Coach.to assist young adults from 18 years onwards.

Update-Five years on….

1/9/2016.

I originally wrote this blog five years ago, quite a few changes have occurred so just thought it was a good idea to update.

Started of as a Sole Trader/Founder of  Ivey Business Services in 1992, still operating the same. Became know as TheConnector – changed this to TheConnectorInt

Marketing is via Networking –  all about relationships as Rob Peter’s would say #RelationshipCapital. – the art of getting to know people and finding out what they need.  They in turn maybe interested in what you have to offer or maybe interested to give you referrals or advocate you or even better collaborate with you.

Collaboration is great because  different people bring different skills to the table and so forming a team with everyone working towards the same purpose brings outstanding results.

I am delighted to be collaborating with Simon Barry from KiplingandKirbyVentures and also Rob Peters founder & CEO of StandardofTrust.com 

I have always enjoyed Networking events and Simon needed to have a regular monthly meeting as an incubator for start-ups.

We have decided to hold this in the Southwark area of London as our 1st meeting of this autumn is on 7th September 2016.  Please register your commitment to attend here 

Rob Peter’s wrote this really useful article called ” 10 Benefits of The Digital Start-Up Incubator Today”

I post information about the products and services that I represent on the following Facebook Pages.

Social Media Tutorials – Stella Holman, Personal IT Coach.

Information about the VIP Travel club and #Dreamtrips on  The Connector, working with a “Vision, plan and purpose to make a difference.

Ivey Business Services,

Digital Marketing for Creative People 

FriendsOfKusadasi

Organo Gold Team-Kusadasi

Weekly, I am still active on Empire Avenue on – it is now called Empire.Kred http://www.empireavenue.com/theconnector Over five years i have used this platform to make lots of new contacts, some of which have become really good online friends.  Remarkably a good platform to assist others build their brand online.

My Klout scoring fluctuates as it doesn’t let you have a day off!!

Five years ago i was running two blogs this one and also Stella Holman’s Blog ) and now i also have RecipeToSuccess FriendsOfKusadasi IveyBusinessServices EarnWithStella.