Having the heart and destiny for “Servant Leadership” can have its rewards as well as its disadvantages.
Through my friendship with my neighbour who is involved in the local music scene I got to know a few musicians and a local film production company.
Via the film production company I began a friendship with a man who suffered with mental illness and to an extent housebound
I have no concept or experience with mental illness and It was very challenging for me, also to spend time with someone who is living their life on the opposite side of the day.
It seems that when people have no motivation to get up in the morning tend to sit up for half the night and then get up late, so your early evening is their morning then the trouble is your late evening is their midday so they are raring to go when you’re starting to slow down.
I helped my friend with his housework, shopping and we also spent some time creating some music which was published on Soundcloud. Just a bit of a comedy spoof nothing serious.
In 2012, I undertook some training to be a Life Coach, it gave me great pleasure as I am passionate about being Entrepreneurial I was keen to help awaken the spirit inside him so he would explore his entrepreneurial talents and move him to a place where he could be active in the community.
I succeeded to encourage him to begin painting again which then led on to his love for theatre and it seemed his talent for being a script writer and a producer.
Well this is what he told me and also that he had achieved other things, so I had no reason to doubt it and so was carried along in the moment I guess.
It was all very feasible and convincing that I never doubted it! Well, I did a little bit of sleuthing on the web but never found a single grain of evidence to what he said which did make me wonder a bit..
Melio Media Films were going to offer my actor cousin Mark Lindsay Chapman, a role in their new film while Mark was in Eastbourne visiting the family, but once my friend was introduced to Mark the whole situation totally changed.
We were planning on working together and using my Social Media skills and decided to create a film company, though at this time I wasn’t aware at the time that my friend’s involvement with past script writing and production was in fact very minimal even to the point of only brain storming new ideas and supporting someone else’s work, so I didn’t realize that he wasn’t actually capable of writing a script, so when I was talking to the Mark and his colleague I was backing up his story that he was competent to undertake the work they were wanting to give him and so it fueled up his ego to think that he would be competent and from that point onward wouldn’t allow any form of communication from me which he understood to be negative, in other words if I dared to mention that I didn’t agree with him!!!
During this time the new film company had been created, I was suppose to be part of this team and use my social media service , but when I went to implement things I found that the Web Designer had already started and so it upset my strategy and I was cross and then more problems arose as I was told I was upsetting people and so it gave a negative reaction and another reason why he decided I should leave the team. Overall, I didn’t have much of a say in what happened including what I was going to do myself and so we reached a mutual understanding that I wouldn’t have any involvement with it at all!!!
Then Steve and I had a long chat about past events and we discussed how our mutual friend had got involved with his company and he told me that they had known each other now for about six years and he though he was helping him by giving him a little bit of work to do from home, unpaid work, but it gave him a small bit of responsibility, he had encouraged him by calling him a film producer, not realizing that our friend would take this literally and use it as a platform to try and gain trust and deceive people about his abilities.
All this came as a bit of a shock to me, especially as i had introduced him to my trusted sources!
The epilogue in this situation is that our mutual friend’s talents do not lie in script writing production but more at a level of “project manager” who has managed to gain influence to create a group of budding actors/actresses that are now creating short films. I would say good luck to them!
This trail of events made me feel very low and I had another accident and fell down some stairs damaging my collar bone which made me feel that I just wanted to take a back seat from everything however since I have been online for the past twenty years and have built this system with it’s various processes my life is entwined with all the other people I have linked to on the various business and social networking sites, people from all aspects of my life who regularly comment, tag and post it’s impossible to leave it alone for more than a few hours.
Currently taking a back seat and temping while i seek inspiration for my next project.